As I write this letter, your mother is a little over 7 months pregnant with you. I’m losing sleep and hairs planning a baby shower in both your honor. It is a bit of a tricky situation because; your mother is nosey and wants to know everything. The shower is meant to be a surprise. None the less, in the midst of wondering what I will get you as a gift, I realized I didn’t know what to buy. There is nothing tangible I felt would measure up or express my love for you. As much as we haven’t met, I have such an exhaustive love for you, which only I as a mother am aware off. I also have a little boy, whom I hope one day you will be the best of friends with, as I am with your mother.
There are a lot of hopes and dreams that I have for you but firstly my wishes for you as a baby are:
1. I wish you a painless and quick entry into this world. I wish that you and your mommy work together as a team in ensuring that you are comfortable and ready to come into this world.
2. I bestow on you a blessed transition from your mother’s womb into this life.
3. I wish for you peace and calmness in your early months and as you grow from a tiny baby into a fully fledge child.
I wish all of this in the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit.
Now you will quickly learn as you grow up, that the world is not necessarily a nice place. It can be very cruel. My job (and that of your family and your other aunties) is to help you navigate life the best way you can. And to ensure that you grow up to be a spiritual, courteous and positively contributing member of society. We have to make sure you grow up with fundamental principles that even when you are exposed to the most negative circumstance, your resilience is strong enough to remind you of those principles. Here is my list for you to help navigate your life
1. Your Parents
The twelfth commandment reads ““Honor your father and your mother, as the LORD your God commanded you, that your days may be long, and that it may go well with you in the land that the LORD your God is giving you”. I want you to live by this commandment. You won’t always understand some of the decisions your parents make for you. And you might even hate them for those decisions [when you are around 15 and think you know everything], but one day when you are a parent yourself, you will understand. Respect your parents and grant them room to exercise their authority, as they know best. Look unless your parents want you to murder someone or mutilate a kitten, I don’t see why you would backchat or be disrespectful to them. Your parents are your God on earth and are the supreme Judge of your life. No one will ever tell you the honest truth more than them. And no one can love you even at your worst more than your parents [unless you are a pimp or junkie, even then…]. And believe me; parents have a tendency to die before their children. So your time is limited. Make the most of it.
I have been friends with your mother for almost 19 years. We have had some amazing times, but we’ve also had our fair share of unfavorable periods. But the reason we have made it thus far is because we have been good to and for each other. Keep in mind that you are the company you keep. If you hang out with drug addicts you could possibly end up sniffing your life away. If you hang out with saints you can be motivated to become one. So my child, when you make friends, chose people you will grow with, and learn from. People you can be mischievous with but also whom you can help each other come back in line and are obedient with.
Education is your keys to ALL your dreams and with education the sky is the limit. I know sometimes being cool requires you to hate school and probably you will too at some point (most of us did). But it’s one of those things that are non-negotiable. Waking up in the mornings will be horrible, the teachers you will intensely dislike, the routine will stifle you but the accomplishments will be profitable and smell of success (read: money!).You also can never know enough. As long as you can still read and write, continue to study. Knowledge is power and a book is your greatest weapon.
4. Love + Girls
Ideally I would like to see this (You + Girl = Marriage = Baby)… Now it doesn’t always happen this way… Sometimes it can be (You + Guy = marriage) or (You + Girl = Marriage but no kids)… Either way, love is great. To be adored by someone it is absolutely awesome. It is something unexplainable. Choose your partner well. The pretty girls aren’t always the smartest. Make sure you treat all women with the utmost respect. Never curse or lay your hand on ANY woman (or man actually). I will not only disown you but I shall grab you by your ears as you go and apologies and then personally have you thrown in jail (nasty things happen to people in jail.. trust!!). Chances are you will break a heart or two- but remember your heart can also be broken. Be kind, be genuine, be sincere and be thoughtful in your relations.
5. Drugs and alcohol
Drugs have NEVER been cool or acceptable. They make you crazy and are illegal. Don’t even think of experimenting with them. You will end up dead or in jail. It’s that simple. Alcohol is not half bad. You will grow up seeing your parents and other adults (possibly me more than anyone else) consume alcohol. Although I can sit here and say don’t drink, if you decide to experiment do so at the right legal age and be responsible. When you are ready to drink, come to me. I’ll buy you your 1st drink.
I have so much to teach u and there is so much you will learn as you grow up. I can fill these pages to the brim with advice. However you and I will learn a lot of life’s lessons along the way together once you are old enough.
All you need to know for now is that you are loved, you are special and we all feel blessed to have you in our lives.
Love you forever and a day,